Having a boyfriend is great and all, but that doesn’t mean that dealing with his family will be easy—especially during the holidays. In an ideal world, going home for the holidays, whether it’s your home or his, would be stress-free. But everyone knows that the holiday brings out opinionated family members and a lot of chaos and awkwardness. If you’re going to spend Christmas with your partner’s family, then this article is for you. Today, New Jersey Singles reviews how to spend the holidays with your new boyfriend.
1. Don’t take things personally.
This one’s easier said than done, but it’s important nonetheless. Even when his mom casually mentions that his ex was an expert gardener, don’t take it personally. Just let it roll off your shoulders and keep a smile on your face.
2. Be on Your Best Behavior
You always want to come off as the real you, which is the reason you need to be you but on your best behavior. When you’re getting to know his family, make sure you’re polite by saying your pleases and thank yous and by always being polite and offering to help with anything you can.
3. Ask Him to Prep You
Is there a particular troublesome uncle or a topic of conversation you should steer clear of? You need to know all this information ahead of time, so he should be glad to help you out. After all, it’s in his best interest that his family likes you.
4. Don’t Drink Too Much Alcohol
The holiday season includes plenty of drinking, but keep your company in mind as you’re having a few of those oh-so-easy to go down holiday cocktails. You don’t want to embarrass yourself and your new boyfriend, so take it easy on the booze.
5. Play It Cool with the New Couple Thing
Excessive PDAs in front of his parents or young siblings will not going over well with anyone, and it’s a little bit disrespectful. A squeeze of his hand or a quick peck on the cheek is okay, but leave it at that.
6. Bring a Gift
Even if the gift falls flat, it’s still very thoughtful of you to bring a gift. And it’s better than showing up emptyhanded. If you already know that mom drinks wine, then get her a nice bottle of red. If not, remember that you can always get her cookies, flowers, or chocolates.
7. Remember Their Names
Remember everyone’s names and use them. Using people’s names is a great way to connect with them. Even if you don’t know them yet, this simple gesture shows great effort on your part.
8. Don’t Use Him as a Security Blanket
This is a very important time—a time to get to know everyone. These are the people who could potentially be your family one day, so try getting to know them independently. Don’t hide behind your boyfriend the whole time and rather make your way around getting to chitchat with everyone.
9. Take Your Time
Checking out Instagram or Facebook during family time isn’t a great way to clear your mind. But it will make you look distant. Going out for a walk with your new boyfriend around the neighborhood is an acceptable way to clear your head and get some fresh air.
10. Avoid Drama
Most families will have some type of conflict arise at a holiday get together where the eggnog is flowing. But if conflict pops up, don’t get involved. Don’t throw in your two pennies or get involved in the conversation because you don’t belong in it.
Ultimately, you need to relax and remember that your new boyfriend wouldn’t take you home if he didn’t think you were great. Be calm, sociable, polite, and have a good time. Merry Christmas from our New Jersey Singles matchmakers!
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