Dating can be very difficult. Not only do we get very nervous about going on a first date due to questions such as, “Will he be into me?” and “Does this dress accentuate my features?” ringing through our head, there are also many more things that take place during a date that can be a huge turn off for him (and everyone knows this all too well). Hmm, come to think of it, perhaps you already made a few mistakes. Maybe you’ve been on a few first dates that didn’t turn into seconds and you’re wondering why. Are you guilty of making one of these first date mistakes?
If you want your next first date to turn into a second, then you need to stop making these dating mistakes and date with confidence. Today, New Jersey Singles reviews the most common dating mistakes women make on first dates.
1. Being Too Available
Your first date with a guy is coming up this weekend. He asked you if you wanted to meet him and you, of course, said yes. Then, he asked when you were available, and you said anytime. You told him to name the time and place and you’ll be there. While you might really be free anytime, you don’t want to look so available—so desperate to get together.
Like it or not, men love chasing women. They don’t want a woman who is easy and always available for them. A lot of guys see the wooing stage as a competition, and they actually want to work hard to get a woman. If you tell him you’re available anytime, he has no reason to put in any effort because he already won you over.
2. Showing Up Late
We get it, there’s so much you must do to get dolled up and look your best. But it doesn’t matter how much you must do to get ready, you shouldn’t show up late. Showing up late will ensure you don’t get a second date. The guy waiting for you at the restaurant expects you to be on time. Being late on a first date gives a bad impression and suggests you don’t care or have respect for him. Try your hardest to show up on time, even if it means leaving a few minutes earlier than it takes to get there.
3. Not Asking Any Questions
The guy usually takes the lead on a date, but the problem is some women expect men to do all the work. So the guy will ask all the questions while she doesn’t ask a single one. How do you expect to get to know him if you’re sitting back enjoying your martini and not asking any questions?
Maybe you don’t think you should be asking any questions, or maybe you’re too nervous to ask him anything. It doesn’t matter the case, if you don’t ask any questions, then he’s going to be bored of you or assume you are not into him. Start engaging men in conversation while you’re out on dates.
4. Asking Too Many Questions
On the opposite side of the spectrum, asking too many questions is never good either. No one wants to feel like they’re being interrogated by the police. If it feels like you’re in a police interrogation room with prepared questions, it’s going to irritate him. Toss a few of those questions out there for now and just let the conversation flow as naturally as possible. You never want to come off so strong and robotic.
5. Talking About Your Ex
Even if you only talk about your ex to criticize him, don’t do it. Don’t ever mention anything about your ex, especially things like, “Oh, my ex used to bring me here.” It’s a major turn off and will make him feel uncomfortable. Any talk about your ex, including bashing, gives your date the impression that you’re not over your ex. And the truth is, if you’re still talking about your ex, then you’re not over him.
Ladies, if you want your next first date to be a success, make sure you’re not committing one of these five dating mistakes many women are often guilty of. If you’re struggling in your dating life and not turning first dates into seconds, then you’re probably guilty of a few of these bad dating behaviors.
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