Women today are done playing games and ready to take charge of their dating lives. However, there’s a huge difference between being confident and going after what you want and being clingy. If you’re guilty of any of the following, we want you to back off a little; otherwise, you’re going to look like you’re desperate. Today, New Jersey Singles reviews the telltale signs you’re coming off as needy. If you’re guilty of these things, it’s time to take a step back and give him some breathing room.

1. You’re constantly blowing up his phone.

If you’re always the one initiating the conversation—or worse, sending back-to-back messages—then it’s time to back away. No, seriously put the phone down. You don’t have to bombard him with messages to show your interest in him. Let him meet you halfway. And if he doesn’t reciprocate, move on to someone else. The last thing you want is to be clingy with your messages.

2. You always want to hang out.

We get it, you’re super excited you found someone you’re into. But if you’re constantly wanting to hang out, you’re going to scare him away. You don’t want your eagerness and neediness to display like a flashing neon sign. If you’re always the one initiating the plans and accepting every invite thrown your way, he’s definitely going to pick up that you’re desperate and will most likely take advantage of you.

3. You can’t keep your hands to yourself.

It’s cute in romantic movies when new couples can’t keep their hands off each other, but if you’re constantly touchy-feely with him every time you’re together, he’s going to think you’re desperate. Plus, there are many men out there who are not into PDAs, so not only are you coming off as clingy, but you’re making him feel uncomfortable too. Try giving him a little space and breathing room.

4. You pretend to like things you don’t.

There’s so much pressure in the getting to know stage to find something in common. But acting like you like something you don’t is not the way to do it. The truth has a funny way of coming out. Being your authentic self during the early stages is the best approach. And don’t worry if you disagree on a few things. That’s normal in any relationship.

6. You’re talking about the future already.

Are you one of those women who talks about the future on date number three? Are you already talking about marriage, babies, and your retirement in Boca after only knowing him for two weeks? Oh, boy! You’re definitely coming off as desperate. The honeymoon destination, matching tattoos, and baby names can be discussed a few years down the road. But keep those future topics off the table for now.

7. You’re his social media groupie.

Stalker alert! Liking every single picture he puts on social media and commenting on every status doesn’t show your interest. It shows him that you’re needy and desperate. Going back and liking pictures from months ago will make you look like a stage five clinger. It’s okay to like certain things every now and then, but try limiting your social media love to a few relevant posts.

8. You already introduced him to your friends and family.

Maybe you’re excited to finally bring home a guy who is worthy of introducing to your parents. But inviting him to a family get together if you’ve only known him for a few weeks will ring alarm bells in his head. Unless the two of you have the same group of friends, you shouldn’t introduce him to your friends and family just yet. Otherwise, you run the risk of coming off as desperate.

We understand that you’re so happy you finally found someone who you think could be the one. But if you want to ensure that he stays the one, you need to back off and stop being clingy and needy. If you’re guilty of one or more of these behaviors, then you’re definitely coming off as desperate.

If you’re not having any luck in your dating life, it’s time to outsource the hard part of dating to our expert matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles Dating Service. Let us give you the guidance and support you need to date with success. We’ll provide you one-on-one dating coaching and handpicked dates with relationship-minded men who are a perfect fit for you. Call 1 (888) 417-0020 to book your 100% FREE, in-depth matchmaking consultation today.

It’s the wonderful time of year where everyone is dressed in Christmas sweaters, talking about holiday parties, and looking forward to getting a kiss under the mistletoe—except you.

It’s hard to celebrate Christmas when you’re the only single one in the group. In fact, if you get one more invite to a cheery holiday get together, you might just throw your tree right out of the window. Take a deep breath and calm down. Today New Jersey Singles reviews tips to feel good about celebrating Christmas with friends when you’re feeling a little like the Grinch.

1. Limit the Parties

Our matchmakers here at New Jerseys Singles are very sociable and love Christmas parties. But we understand that single people might not feel that same enthusiasm for those festive holiday parties. If you’re not looking forward to a packed calendar full of holiday parties, then limit how many you go to. After all, attending only a handful of events will be much easier on your holiday spirits than going to dozens.

2. Do It for Them

As much as you want to shut yourself up in your bedroom, you won’t be enjoying the holidays if you go that lonely route. Make it appoint to celebrate the holidays—do it for your friends. If you have to, don’t look at it as a Christmas gathering but rather an everyday get together.

3. Suggest Something Non-Christmassy

Don’t feel like attending a ridiculous ugly Christmas sweater party full of nothing but happy couples? Not feeling the whole caroling thing this year? Then why not suggest something else instead, like bowling? The less Christmassy the event, the less it will remind you of your single status.

4. Don’t Ruin It for Your Friends

Whatever you do, don’t ruin the holidays for your friends. Saying things like, “I hate Christmas,” or “Christmas is so commercialized” isn’t going to make anything better for you or them. They are your friends and they deserve happiness. We’re sure that if you were in a relationship, then you would be enjoying Christmas too. Try to put your uneasiness about your single status behind for the holidays so you can celebrate with friends and loved ones.

5. Skip Christmas Unless They Come Around

No one is saying that you have to celebrate Christmas on your own. Invite your close friends over to spend it with you. Laugh, drink, and be merry! And remember that Christmas only lasts a few weeks so we’re confident you will make it through.

6. Focus on Your Friends

Remember what Christmas is all about: spending time with the people you love the most. Although you might be single, you still have friends who love and care about you. Just focus on hanging out with them. Sure, you might not have a kiss under the mistletoe, but you have a group of friends you can celebrate with.

7. Take Some Time for Yourself

We know that the holidays can serve as a brutal reminder of your single status. After all, the holidays do bring out the couples walking hand-in-hand. You don’t have to put yourself through the pain of seeing happy couples everywhere you look. Take some time off for yourself and relax at home. Decorate your house, soak in a hot bubble bath, and drink some of your favorite holiday drinks.

8. Have an Out Prepared

If the parties and gatherings seem to be a little too much, have an out ready to go. Say you have an early day at work tomorrow or that you’re feeling under the weather. Have a valid excuse ready to go when the couples at the parties just become too much for you to handle. There’s no shame in cutting out early if you’re feeling sad and down.

9. Talk to a Close Friend

Talking about your feelings to a close friend will work wonders for you. You might not feel like the Grinch after you get it all off your chest. Plus, your friends are there to help you and cheer you up. They’re going to listen and lift your spirits any way they can.

10. Find One Thing to Be Excited About

Okay, so you might not be looking forward to Christmas itself and all the happy couples everywhere you turn, but there has to be something you’re excited about, right? Well, figure it out and focus on that one thing. It could be watching Home Alone, getting yourself a gift, or taking a week off work. Focus on that and you’ll do just fine.

We know that the holidays can be brutal for single people. But don’t worry because you’ll survive it. Rely on your good friends because they’ll be there to support you. Focus on the positive things and you’ll quickly get in the Christmas spirit.

If you’re single and dreading the holidays alone, let our expert matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles Dating Service help you on your search for that special someone.

Call 1 (888) 417-0020 to book your 100% FREE, in-depth matchmaking consultation today. We’ll handpick dates who are relationship-ready and compatible with you, so all you have to do is show up and enjoy meeting like-minded singles.

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