Here at New Jersey Singles, we hear a lot of dating complaints, one of them being stale and boring relationships. But don’t fret, our New Jersey matchmaking service has the answers you’re looking for!
Has your boyfriend become extremely boring? Are you having a hard time getting him away from the sofa? Has he become a couch potato? Today, our New Jersey Singles matchmakers will teach you how to bring some life back to your boyfriend and your relationship.
We all go through certain phases of life in which we get a little boring. Everyone experiences this at some point or another. It’s like the older we get, the more settled we become, especially during the cold winter months here in New Jersey. Now, we know you love your boyfriend and you’ve been pretty patient with his lack of interest so far, but there comes a point where he needs to get up and get moving, or else you’re going to lose interest in him and the relationship together.
There are two reasons why a man may lose interest. One, he could boring, or two, he might be in a bad mood. Don’t worry, though, our professional matchmakers have the solution for this.
If He Is Boring Due to His Personality
A man who is naturally boring is not going to change overnight. In fact, you’re going to have to do a lot of work in order to get him off the sofa to do something fun. Again, it’s not impossible, but there are many things you’re going to have to do, such as:
1. Try Doing Something He Enjoys
The first thing you need to do in order to bring life into your boyfriend is to do something you know he enjoys doing. Now, if he enjoys fishing or golfing and you are a nightclub or movie type of woman, you might have some troubles getting yourself motivated to do those things; however, once you have done something he wants to do, he will sort of owe you a favor to do something you want to do.
2. Bring Him Around New People
Many relationships get stale because two partners get too comfortable with each other. Your boyfriend might have become boring because he only knows a handful of people and is very happy just staying at home with you.
If you want to get him out of his shell, you’re going to have to introduce him to a new circle of people. Get another couple and go out on a date together and pull him away from Sportscenter.
3. Go to Eat Somewhere New
If you are like most couples, you probably have your top three restaurants you always go out to eat at, and it probably takes a lot to vary from the ordinary, right? Our New Jersey Singles matchmakers encourage you and your man to try something new. Tell him you have made reservations to the trendiest restaurant in town and you cannot cancel. This will kind of force him to go out with you. And we guarantee once he’s out, he’s going to be glad he went.
4. Do Something New Together
Sometimes when you’re bored, you’re going to have to do something neither of you have ever done. Whether it’s miniature golfing, bowling, a ride in a horse and carriage, a hot air balloon ride, or going on a small vacation to a new destination, you’re going to have to try something new. The thing is to try something new, something neither of you have done together.
5. Give Him an Ultimatum
Finally, it’s time to give him an ultimatum. Instead of trying to do tricks or sweet things for him, you need to threaten him to do something about it. It sounds like a lot of work, and you might even have to engage in an argument, but it doesn’t matter. You need to let your man know he is at the verge of losing you and that if he doesn’t do something about it, you’re not going to put up with it anymore.
If He Is Boring Due to a Bad Mood
Bad mood boring is something a little different, but that’s good news for you. You can’t really expect him to go and try something new if he is angry. Now, to get him out of this funk, you’re going to have to try a different approach, such as:
1. Get Him Out of the House
The term cabin fever isn’t something made up, it’s real. It’s something that happens when you are cooped up in your house for way too long. The first thing to get your boyfriend out of this rut is to get him out of the house. Tell him you want to go for a walk around the block, to grab some coffee, or to see the sunset. The key is just to get him out of the house, even if it’s just for a few minutes. You need to help him see the world he is missing out on.
2. Try Something Fun
Many people are afraid of new and adventurous things. Still, if you want to live life to the fullest, you need to do something you’ve never done before. There is something exciting about taking risks and facing your fears. It makes you feel alive. Facing your fears gets your blood pumping and adrenaline going and will put your boyfriend in a better mood. How about bungee jumping together? Okay, maybe not, but what about taking a sailboat ride? How about driving to a different town and exploring what it has to offer? Whatever you do, you need to do something daring (or at least something you’ve never done) together.
3. Get Tickets to a Local Show
Finally, if you want to get your boring boyfriend out of your house, do it by not giving him a choice about it. Just go ahead and purchase tickets, but be sure to do it on a date you know your boyfriend has off. With that being said, you do need to get tickets for something you know he enjoys. Whether it’s a football game, a concert, or a musical show, try something that appeals to his likes and you will get him out of the house. Plus, our New Jersey Singles matchmakers know he’ll probably even appreciate you for this one.
So there you have it, ladies, some helpful tips to change your boyfriend’s mood and bring some excitement back into your relationship. After all, it’s not that difficult to change his mood as long as you do it right. So tell us, which one are you going to try on him?