Whether you’re dating for the first time or are reentering the dating scene after a breakup or divorce, everyone struggles a bit when it comes to modern day dating. What’s more? There are no magic formulas when it comes to finding that special someone. And although there isn’t a one-size fits all piece of advice, our matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles Dating Service have some dating secrets we know will put you one step closer to finding the one.
If you are a serious single who wants to find real love, then you’ll definitely want to implement these matchmaking secrets into your dating life.
1. First Impressions Still Count
As they say: you never get a second chance to make a first impression. When it comes to dating, you only get one chance to do it right. Get a trusted friend to give you their honest opinion before heading out on your date. We know this is easier said than done today, but we have the solution for you. Simply send them a picture of what yourself all put together and ready for your big date.
One important tip is to make sure that your clothes fit properly. If you lost weight, make sure you freshen up your wardrobe because fitted clothing is better than loose clothing. Oh, and don’t forget to use a spritz of perfume or cologne to really pull it all together.
2. Dress to Impress
If you’re going on an evening date, make sure you dress the part. Guys, make sure you wear slacks, a nice dress shirt, and clean shoes. Ladies, wear something feminine, something that is not too revealing. Keep your makeup and jewelry to a minimum so he’s not distracted by any loud or over-the-top pieces.
3. Chivalry Goes a Long Way
One thing is for sure: guys should always open the doors, pull out chairs, and offer your coat. Believe it or not, being a gentleman will always make you stand out from the crowd. Ladies, you’re not off the hook here because you can be chivalrous too by always thanking your date at the end of the evening. On the first date, always offer to pay half of the bill. And if you had a wonderful evening, make sure you send him a text message to let him know, especially if you’re hoping to get a second one.
4. Keep the Dates Short & Sweet
You should always keep the first date under two hours. You and your date will have plenty of time to get to know each other without crossing the line of oversharing. We always suggest for our clients to keep the first date short and sweet and to choose a casual setting, like a coffee shop or a restaurant that’s not too loud or stuffy. First dates need to take place in a setting that allows conversation to flow, so no bars, clubs, or noisy places.
5. Always Smile & Be Present
This tip is for both sexes. Smile and have fun. Be present. Don’t ramble about your exes. Don’t ask about theirs. Put your phone down. Be authentic and have fun. See, it really is that simple.
6. Pace Yourself
We live in a society that expects immediate gratification, but if you have that approach in your dating life, you’re going to be disappointed. Our advice as matchmakers is to pace yourself and take time getting to know each other. The guy or gal you’re meant to be with will be well worth the wait.
Are you one of the many serious singles in New Jersey who is struggling to find love on your own? Could your dating life benefit from expert help from one of our dedicated matchmakers? If you want to meet relationship-minded singles in NJ, contact our matchmakers today and let us do the hard part of dating for you. Call to request your FREE no-obligation matchmaking consultation with New Jersey’s best matchmakers today!