With every breakup, there’s always this point when you’ve stopped feeling sad about it and are wondering if you should start venturing out there again. Now here’s the thing about that: We live in a society where we’re encouraged to pull up our bootstraps and get back on the horse – so to speak – even when it comes to matters of the heart. However, getting back out there too soon can be a bad thing.
Not sure if you’re ready to venture back into the NJ dating scene?
Get ready, as New Jersey Singles reviews the awesome signs you’re ready to date again.
1. You’re not in a rush to find love.
When you’ve been hurt before, often there’s the impulse to try and fill the void that’s left by your ex. That’s how those things called rebound relationships happen! When you’re ready to date, you won’t be looking to rush into anything new. Instead, you’ll be okay taking your time and getting to know the person little by little.
2. You’ve done something nice for yourself.
Your heart was shattered, but you deserve some self-love and the opportunity to indulge a little. Whether that involves treating yourself to a relaxing massage, that purse you’ve been saving for, or just taking some time out to relax, you need to give this gift to yourself before you start dating again – to remind yourself that your worth it and that you deserve it.
3. You want to date for all the right reasons.
You’re not trying to make your ex jealous by dating someone new. You’re not trying to fill a void left behind from the breakup. Instead, you’re dating because you’re ready to meet new people and hopefully find love again.
4. You can own up to your role in the breakup.
It takes two to tango. If you’re still blaming your ex for everything that went wrong in the relationship, you’re not ready to date again. Part of putting the breakup behind you is being able to own up to your own personal mistakes – even if it was cheating.
5. You’re not angry at them.
You’re perfectly entitled to feel angry at your ex if they cheated on you. Allow yourself to feel all those negative feelings so they can come out of your body. You need to process all those negative emotions so you don’t carry them to your next relationship. You are ready to start dating again when you no longer feel angry at your ex.
So tell us, are you ready to start dating again? Are you feeling a little nervous, or are you totally excited to hit the NJ dating scene again? If you’re ready to start dating and find love again, our professional matchmakers would love to hear from you.
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