With every breakup, there’s always this point when you’ve stopped crying and you start to think about getting back to dating. Now here’s the thing: we live in a world where we’re encouraged to pull out our bootstraps and get back on the horse right away – even when it comes to matters of love. However, there’s nothing more futile than getting back into the dating world when you’re not 100% ready to date again.
Not sure if you’re ready to get out there and start dating? Get ready to find out as New Jersey Singles reviews the amazing signs you’re ready to date again.
1. You’re totally okay being single.
The only time you should ever start dating is when you know in your heart that you are okay being single and are comfortable hanging out solo. One of the hardest things to do after you breakup with someone is re-adapt to being single. Have you spent some quality time alone? Whether that’s binge watching your favorite movies, hanging out with the girls, practicing yoga or going to the therapist – you need to adjust to just do you before you can start dating.
2. You’re no longer angry at them.
You’re perfectly entitled to feel angry as hell after you breakup with someone. Allow yourself to feel all the feelings – even the ugly ones that make you want to throw stuff against the wall. You need to process all the horrible emotional stuff or you’re going to carry all those negative feelings around in your next relationship.
3. You can own up to the role you played in the end of the relationship.
If you’re still blaming your ex for everything that went wrong in the relationship, you’re not ready to start dating. Part of moving on is being able to own up to your mistakes that caused the relationship to end – even if that mistake was dating your ex in the first place.
4. You’ve got your stuff back or decided not to go pick it up.
Sometimes getting all your things back from your ex isn’t worth the trouble of seeing them again. However, if getting back your treasured, perfectly worn hoodie or one-of-a-kind stamp collection is crucial to your sense of well-being, you need to get your things back as soon possible – preferably before you start dating again.
5. You’ve reached a point where you don’t talk about them anymore.
This one is key. It’s totally normal to think about your ex and want to talk about the breakup after it happens. The healing process after a breakup isn’t complete until you’ve had a chance to air all of your grievances and vent until you’re blue in the face.
No one wants to date the person who I still obsessed with their ex. Take time to process the breakup. When you’re ready to start dating, you’ll be able to leave your past where it belongs – in the past.
So how many of these five signs do you see in your life right now? Are you ready to start dating again? Are you ready to hit the New Jersey singles scene?
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