Women today are done playing games and ready to take charge of their dating lives. However, there’s a huge difference between being confident and going after what you want and being clingy. If you’re guilty of any of the following, we want you to back off a little; otherwise, you’re going to look like you’re desperate. Today, New Jersey Singles reviews the telltale signs you’re coming off as needy. If you’re guilty of these things, it’s time to take a step back and give him some breathing room.
1. You’re constantly blowing up his phone.
If you’re always the one initiating the conversation—or worse, sending back-to-back messages—then it’s time to back away. No, seriously put the phone down. You don’t have to bombard him with messages to show your interest in him. Let him meet you halfway. And if he doesn’t reciprocate, move on to someone else. The last thing you want is to be clingy with your messages.
2. You always want to hang out.
We get it, you’re super excited you found someone you’re into. But if you’re constantly wanting to hang out, you’re going to scare him away. You don’t want your eagerness and neediness to display like a flashing neon sign. If you’re always the one initiating the plans and accepting every invite thrown your way, he’s definitely going to pick up that you’re desperate and will most likely take advantage of you.
3. You can’t keep your hands to yourself.
It’s cute in romantic movies when new couples can’t keep their hands off each other, but if you’re constantly touchy-feely with him every time you’re together, he’s going to think you’re desperate. Plus, there are many men out there who are not into PDAs, so not only are you coming off as clingy, but you’re making him feel uncomfortable too. Try giving him a little space and breathing room.
4. You pretend to like things you don’t.
There’s so much pressure in the getting to know stage to find something in common. But acting like you like something you don’t is not the way to do it. The truth has a funny way of coming out. Being your authentic self during the early stages is the best approach. And don’t worry if you disagree on a few things. That’s normal in any relationship.
6. You’re talking about the future already.
Are you one of those women who talks about the future on date number three? Are you already talking about marriage, babies, and your retirement in Boca after only knowing him for two weeks? Oh, boy! You’re definitely coming off as desperate. The honeymoon destination, matching tattoos, and baby names can be discussed a few years down the road. But keep those future topics off the table for now.
7. You’re his social media groupie.
Stalker alert! Liking every single picture he puts on social media and commenting on every status doesn’t show your interest. It shows him that you’re needy and desperate. Going back and liking pictures from months ago will make you look like a stage five clinger. It’s okay to like certain things every now and then, but try limiting your social media love to a few relevant posts.
8. You already introduced him to your friends and family.
Maybe you’re excited to finally bring home a guy who is worthy of introducing to your parents. But inviting him to a family get together if you’ve only known him for a few weeks will ring alarm bells in his head. Unless the two of you have the same group of friends, you shouldn’t introduce him to your friends and family just yet. Otherwise, you run the risk of coming off as desperate.
We understand that you’re so happy you finally found someone who you think could be the one. But if you want to ensure that he stays the one, you need to back off and stop being clingy and needy. If you’re guilty of one or more of these behaviors, then you’re definitely coming off as desperate.
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