Many times, in relationships, it can be obvious and easy to spot specific reasons why you would want to break up with your partner. Perhaps your boyfriend cheated on you and you just can’t bring yourself to forgive him for it. Maybe your boyfriend has inflicted physical violence upon you or people close to you and you just don’t want to be around him because of that. Maybe he doesn’t respect you and belittles you every chance he gets.
However, the signs that you should break up with someone aren’t always going to be so clear. They aren’t always going to be so obvious. You might be in a relationship that you need to end without even realizing it. And that can be a huge problem because you might be blind to all the ways that this relationship is hurting you. And even worse, the longer you stay in this relationship – this relationship that is eventually going to fail anyways – the more you are depriving yourself of being with the right person.
Today, New Jersey Singles reviews the telltale signs you need to break up with him and go your separate ways.
1. You put your partner’s needs above your own.
It’s always nice to be selfless in your relationship. That’s essential when you are trying to make room in your life for another person in such an intimate way. However, you shouldn’t do it at the expense of your own well-being. You should still make sure that you are taking care of yourself and not putting their wants and needs above your own all the time. A relationship that is based on one person is a relationship that is bound to fail.
2. You don’t feel compelled to fix the problems.
When you are greatly invested in your relationship, then you will want to make sure that all the problems are taken care of. However, if you start to notice that you don’t care to fix the problems in your relationship, it might show that you are okay with it coming to an end. If you no longer care about talking and coming up with a solution to your issues, it likely means you’re over it.
3. You don’t care about him or the relationship anymore.
You don’t really care about the well-being of your boyfriend anymore. You don’t really care much about making life easier or better for him. You don’t care much about the relationship at this point. You might think that it’s okay because you don’t hate the relationship. But you know that indifference can be just as bad.
4. You don’t have meaningful conversations.
You don’t feel compelled to have meaningful conversation with your boyfriend. You don’t feel the need to connect on a deeper level anymore. You aren’t interested in getting to know each other through deep and meaningful conversation and don’t do anything to keep things alive.
5. Your boyfriend doesn’t do anything to make your life better.
You always need to have a partner who pushes you to become better in life. If you don’t have a boyfriend who does that for you, then you need to end this relationship. In a relationship, you always need to be bringing the best out of each other. You should each motivate and encourage each other to become the best you can be, whether it’s in your career or personal life. You want someone who makes you want to be a better person, someone whom you make want to be a better person too.
How many of these five signs do you notice? Is it time to pull the plug on this dying relationship?
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