When you start a new relationship, everything is always exciting. The best part of dating someone new is that you get to have a clean slate.
Relationships in the early stages feel so amazing because there is so much potential for what can be developed in this new partnership.
The one thing that can quickly destroy the relationship is if one partner is still holding on to emotional baggage from the past.
In order to have a happy and healthy relationship. both partners need to be ready and emotionally available to start a relationship.
If one partner isn’t, that can spell trouble for the relationship and the future.
Today, New Jersey Singles reviews the top warning signs your girlfriend is emotionally unavailable.
1. She reacts to her ex on social media.
If she’s still bothered by things that her ex is doing on social media, that’s a huge red flag. Typically, when you break up with someone, you unfollow them on social media and block them from seeing yours. If your girlfriend is still on his posts, or even liking or commenting, that’s a huge red flag.
2. She’s not connecting emotionally.
If you find that your partner is not connecting with you on an emotional level or even physically, it could be because she is still hung up on her last relationship.
You might find that there is a certain distance between you and your girlfriend, and that could be a conscious effort on her part not to let you get too close. That could be because she’s been hurt in the past and she’s decided to keep her guard up in this relationship.
If this is happening, you will notice that your girlfriend will start to pull away.
3. She compares you to her ex.
We’re talking about more than paranoia here. If she compares your physical features to those of her ex, and hints that you don’t measure up to his, this is totally out of line.
She shouldn’t have that much interest and thought invested in her ex any longer, and if she does, that’s a huge red flag for you. It might be best to put a pause on the relationship until she can move past him. Otherwise, she will keep dragging you down.
4. She asks questions that appear controlling.
When a relationship is new, there should be no reason to be controlling or to have trust issues. Trust can often be an issue when entering a new relationship with someone who has been cheated on in the past.
If your girlfriend is still having issues, then she may be bothering you with questions like: Where’s the party? Who’s going to be there? Why are you so done up to go there?
When a girl bombards you with questions, it’s because she needs to feel safe that you are really going where you say you are going. She may be worried that you are secretly meeting up with another woman. It’s always best to be honest and straight-forward in the relationship.
If you notice a couple of these signs in your relationship, it’s time you reevaluate where things are heading. Is your girlfriend still hung up on her ex? Is she carrying excess baggage into your relationship?
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